My SATC thoughts

I watched SATC movie yesterday. I really do not understand Carrie & Big. I'm sure many people think that they are the 'great loves' of each others lives. But, they broke up like 100 times and they constantly hurt each other. Is that love? I disagree. Plus, she is NOT herself with him. Ever since they got together, she worries about how she looks, talks, etc around him. She doesn't stand up for herself - ever. The first time I really saw her stand up for herself was when she hit him with the flowers and said she knew he would do this to her. It's like, yeah finally!